How to manage Mother in Law (Few tips)

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Have a nice day & good weekend ahead... 

Let me tell you some ways to handle or manage mother-in-law (MIL). Through proper communication, negotiation skills one can handle marriage relationship well. Add some humor whenever possible. 

Initially it will be very challenging but through proper practice, you can get the expected happy relationship life that you wanted.

1. She is not your Mom. 

        Don't keep affection on her soo much & get more hurt later by her. Remember She is your Mother in Law. She likes her daughter always more than you. She gives 1st preference to her Son & her daughter only. You will always get 3rd position. Of course, there is no harm in trying to take good care of her & love her like your Mom with no expectation in return. 

2. Setup Boundaries & Be Assertive

        

        When you talk with her, insist more on "Your son". She always like it forever. She needs her son to be her son only. 

3. Try to Escape by saying any excuse if you sense a problem is going to occur now/later. 

        Move away from that place gently say you need to go for cooking, walking, jogging, any other work that matters you. If not, you will get hurt after sharing enough amounts of words in a fight. 

4. Ask help from your husband, to bridge the gap between You & your MIL or sister-in-law. 

        Only he can support you in this situation, try seeking his help always. Till situation gets stabilized or normal. 

5. Be Silent if you don't have any choice.

6. Make Sister-in-law (SIL) as your friend so that she can support you for any arguments.

7. Try to be receptive to some extent if possible. 

        

        Your willing to consider or accept new suggestions and ideas can gradually bring change in other person as well. But I am very sure, it will take some time to happen. 

Do try the above methods and see if it worked for you, leave me a comment if you can. 

What Is a Toxic Mother-in-Law?

A toxic mother-in-law has an unhealthy relationship with her own child and therefore views any romantic partnership with them to be threatening to the homeostasis. She will use inappropriate and unhealthy tactics to ensure that her relationship with her child won't change, even if it means hurting people in the process. This can put your partner in an especially challenging position, where they may be forced to align with you or their family of origin.

Please find below few articles on the same

https://family.lovetoknow.com/about-family-values/10-unhealthy-characteristics-dysfunctional-family

https://family.lovetoknow.com/about-family-values/11-traits-jealous-mother-law-recognize

PS: There are some mother-in-law who are very supportive, friendly, jovial in nature with their daughter-in-law according to the recent work lifestyle modifications. I am not mentioning about them here. This is only for challenging circumstance/situation only fyi. 

Hope the above blog helps for today.

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Ramya Bai K.